Selfless Sex – the Full Body
While prostate cancer may have affected your ability to perform sexually like you were able to in the past, your sex life doesn't have to end. It just has to change a bit. With that said . . .
Welcome to another article in the series on Selfless Sex. Here, I am going to discuss how the entire body can give you pleasure. Let's start by saying your body really likes to receive pleasure.
Have you ever had your hair washed and had a scalp massage? Honestly, a good scalp massage can make your toes curl! Speaking of toes, how about a good foot massage? Both feel really good, right?
In other words, you can receive pleasure from head to toe. Plus, I believe the pleasure you receive coming from a person you’re intimate with will probably feel even better. Notice that you are using your hands to give pleasure, not your genitals. To take it to the next level, you can incorporate other “items” too. Let's go.
The body massage
It is important to mention “skin hunger” again, where we as humans have a strong desire to be touched and caressed. Giving your lover a full body massage goes a long way to address this issue. From time to time, I rub lotion into my lady’s skin from head to toe. Judging by the sound she makes, I think she really likes it. Or give your lover a foot massage.
The bottom line is touch. It gives a sense of intimacy and security. Our lovers like it, and in the end, I think you like that feeling too.
Oral sex
Please keep in mind that Selfless Sex is about you giving your lover pleasure, much more than you are receiving. So, let’s continue with the body massage. While I totally support kissing, tasting, and licking your lover, talk to them about their body.
Tell them what their body and skin feels like. Feel free to kiss random parts of their body. Allow your hands to “accidentally” brush over their nipples and genitals. Open their legs and rub lotion into their upper inner thigh, all the while telling them how sexy they are to you. Let them hear your voice.
Masturbation
How many of you have ever masturbated your lover in the past? Was it fun for you? Keep in mind, Selfless Sex is about giving pleasure to your lover. There are many ways for you to masturbate your partner. Using your hands is one of the best and easiest ways.
If you are going to masturbate your lover, please use lubrication. Dry skin-on-skin friction can be irritating and downright painful.
I have to mention sex toys. There are hundreds of sex toys out there now, for all interests. Some look like they were created by a team of NASA engineers, while a $5 dildo will also get the job done. It depends on what your lover likes. It is fun to go sex toy shopping. I would suggest starting small and moving on from there.
Your senses
As I start to end this article, I would like for you to reflect on something. I want you to be aware of using more "senses" in your sexuality. The more senses you use, the better.
In Selfless Sex, touch is important. Also, paying attention to your lover is very important. Listen to the sounds of pleasure they make. Taste your lover as you lick and kiss them. Look at your lover’s body. Breathe them in and smell them as you kiss their body.
If you’re masturbating them, did they cum? What did you see and hear when they came?
The body has so much potential for sexual pleasure, many of us only really scratch the surface. When you are battling prostate cancer, your sexuality may be different than it was in the past, but it doesn't have to end.
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