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National Cancer Survivors Day: What is a Survivor?

Survivor. Warrior. Living with cancer. Living in spite of cancer. Everyone has a unique way of talking about their experience as someone who’s part of “the club you never wanted to join.” In honor of Cancer Survivors Day 2019, we’re discussing the word survivor.

Survivor

Some folks fully embraced the term survivor. “I’m glad to see a lot of Survivor responses. That’s what we all are until we’re not,” one member said. Another described how she identifies as a survivor, but the reactions of others can be jarring: “I wear that badge proudly, but it’s really awkward when people act like you’re brave, wonderful, or special for being a survivor. You do what you have to do. Period.”

Other commenters expressed their annoyance. As blood cancer advocate Daniel explained, “‘cancer survivor’ is a bad term for something that’s really out of our control.” The word survivor can also create unwanted pressure to be heroic when things are downright awful: “Survivor is such a positive word but if you are in the thick of the fight you don’t feel like a survivor.”

Fighting

Other people said that fighting language helps them take back power over their situation. “Relentless in the battle,” a prostate cancer warrior stated, “no backing down.” Several melanoma warriors identified this way as well: “just living, but fighting all the way.”

Day by Day

Many folks across various cancers talked about taking it one day at a time and living in the moment, as opposed to a battle that’s won or lost. “I never use the S word” a blood cancer community member said, “diagnosed nine and a half years ago and given only 10 months to live. I just accept each day as a gift.” Appreciation of however many days remain was another common theme, which brings us to…

Lucky

Can “lucky” possibly be the right word to describe living with cancer? Indeed, several community members mentioned feeling grateful. Commenters described themselves as “blessed,” “lucky!” and “much more appreciative, closer to my beliefs, realization of shelf live!” Knowing that others have worse diagnoses or outcomes – or simply knowing how short life can be – leads some folks to a newfound appreciation for…

Living

Finally, there’s just living. In the short and sweet words of one advocate, “living with, not dying of.” However you choose to identify yourself today, we acknowledge how unpredictable, fragile, and beautiful life can be, and how grateful we are to have you in it.

How do you choose to identify yourself in coping with cancer? Share in the comments…

Comments

  • ninaw moderator
    1 week ago

    @charlesv, @flyfisher13 and @viridianboat, you describe really well these different approaches depending on your diagnosis. One thing that I hear in common is optimism and confidence in your ability to move forward. I’m sure it took quite some time to get there – Charles with your treatment decision and tough recovery and Flyfisher in facing your prognosis – but you’ve come quite a long way! – Nina, ProstateCancer.net Team

  • CharlesV
    2 weeks ago

    One week from Saturday will be two months I have survived first-stage prostate cancer. I managed to cope with cancer when I first heard of it. Then it was making a decision on how to be treated. It wasn’t an easy call but a prostatectomy was what my urologist recommended and now it is almost two months and between the times of one foley catheter to another and to be treated from peeing blood by different antibiotics and drainage, then the removal of the second foley, I am now for the time cancer free. Hopefully next year on April 15th I can say it is a year that I beat cancer.

  • Flyfisher13
    2 weeks ago

    A Stage IV survivor living life to the max on the two year plan. Travel and adventure this year in between treatments and planning for next years adventures.

  • Viridianboat
    2 weeks ago

    Dont know how to say it. How to descibe.

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