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Movember Community Spotlight: Larry (Part 2)

In Part 2 of this Movember Community Spotlight, Larry talks about seeking support and why men need to stand together when advocating for their health.

Hot flashes and the emotional toll

Hard one there — when I came to grips with the fact I have terminal cancer I had help from my nurse practitioner and doctor. They gave me a script for the hot flushes and depression. I take two Effexor pills a day. They really helped me with the hot flashes, but more so the depression. The hot flashes are hard. I carry a large kerchief to swab down the water, and my daughter gave me a small battery-operated fan she got from Amazon. Very effective for most times. Funny but the higher the humidity the worse the hot flushes are.

The other side effects

For constipation my wife makes me use Miralax every morning in my coffee to prevent it. I have a runny nose most of the time due to one of the meds and heat so I use a little Vick’s in each nostril to keep the inside of my nose from bleeding. Athlete foot meds help if you get a fungal infection. I had one in a private area. I guess what I’m saying is read the pill side effects. You can plan on getting at least half of them.

Finding support and staying busy

Most of all — stay busy and do what you can. When you are tired sit for a while and then go after it again. Get a hobby if you don’t have one. Me…I’m rebuilding motors. A friend of mine gave me a pocket dog. She has been a great distraction especially when I’m a little down. Don’t be afraid to cry on your partner’s shoulder, they don’t mind you being human.

I retired from work and sold my business. My wife has been my CFO and worked with me every day for 30 years. Looking out for her has been my number one job. I haven’t had that much problem with the support we get but she’s mad as all get out. I have her go to see a counselor and work out a lot of her fears and issues. We did all the financial stuff early on, checked the will, and updated the medical power of attorney.

I’ve wrapped myself around my girls; one is a wound care nurse. She flies back from Florida monthly to be with me. She brings my 10 year old grandson. We babysit my 6 year old granddaughter, attend rodeos with my 15 year old grandson, and I spend every morning with my dad who has stage 4 prostate cancer at 87. And I just started building a 57 Ford pickup. I never had time when I was working. So I have to stay busy.

Let’s talk about men’s health

In the 3 1/2 years I’ve had this monster I’ve only heard from the American Cancer Society once and that was last week when I commented on a breast cancer issue. I’ll leave it at that.

I’ve been watching my prostate since the 80s when I went in for a small issue, just a hard spot, got a biopsy and all was well. Then at 40, I started wellness checks with my doctor which included my PSA. At 50 I was seeing a urologist every 6 months for checkups and I thought I had it under control. I had a couple of biopsies but found nothing. My dad has stage 4 prostate cancer so I was watching it closely. Somehow in May my PSA started rising so my doctor gave me a blood test – 3TI believe. No chance of cancer, right? I just fell through the cracks.

I tell every man that will stand still to go get a wellness check-up every year, that’s how my doctor found mine. Get the BRCA genetic test if there’s anyone in your family that has breast or prostate cancer. If anybody has prostate cancer, they need to tell their kids to check into a cancer and heart attack insurance plan. Just don’t wait. A friend of mine had all the signs but wouldn’t go when they could take his prostate. He’s now stage 4. The life you save will be your own.

I hope my story can help someone out there.

Regards, Larry

Read Part 1 of Larry’s story in Movember Community Spotlight: Larry.

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