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Movember Community Spotlight: Victor

Movember Community Spotlight: Victor

For Movember, is highlighting community perspectives on men’s health awareness. Community member Victor’s experience in public health, and his discovery that African American men are at higher risk, inform his approach. Here, Victor reflects on prostate cancer awareness, education, and his own journey.

To educate is to advocate

Getting a diagnosis of prostate cancer is a scary thing and most men don’t want to deal with it. We focus on our manhood and if we think we might lose it then it’s not worth living. But we’re centered on the wrong thing. It’s like playing cards. You play with the hand you’re dealt. Things happen and prostate cancer happens to a certain group of people. But it’s not the end of the world. There are resources out there and groups of people who’ve had a similar experience and lived through it. And having worked in healthcare for a number of years, I know that the medical community is always trying to improve on medical issues.

So rather than be afraid be educated. You’re not the only one with this diagnosis. So many people have successfully beat prostate cancer. It’s time to take stock of your condition, find the best option and pursue it. After I was diagnosed and I started to research treatments I did not know about all these prostate cancer websites that are out there. Fortunately I discovered the HIFU procedure and that worked for me because my cancer was confined to the prostate; it hadn’t spread. And it was one treatment that didn’t require radical surgery.

Be your own advocate

If the numbers show that you’re at risk for prostate cancer just take stock. It’s not the end of the world. It’s a wakeup call. Use all the resources at your disposal for lessons learned. I did my online research. But I also didn’t keep it a secret. I sent an email to my golfing group and told them about my diagnosis and what I’d done so far about getting treatment. One of my golf buddies told me about Dr. Miles, the urologist and surgeon at Houston Methodist Hospital who did my HIFU procedure. So I related the news about my prostate cancer to as many people as possible and I also prayed. The good news from doing this is that I found out I wasn’t alone. I also was referred to a great urologist who was doing the HIFU procedure.

Opt out of the blame game

I’m an extrovert. I don’t hide anything. I didn’t cause my prostate cancer. So there’s nothing to hide. It happens and it can happen to anyone. But you also have to trust your medical professional. You have to decide, this is the doctor I chose. He’s a trained professional. If he says quit smoking, take heed. Trust his expertise.

I don’t know why it happened – and there was nothing I did to cause it – but I can fix it. Now that I’m back to normal I don’t interpret the prostate cancer as a behavior I need to change. I can’t stop the prostate cancer unless I get a regular checkup. It could show up again. But if it comes back again I can do HIFU again.

Respect the process

And if I’ve learned one thing about going through the HIFU procedure, it’s that there is no such thing as a minor procedure. You have to respect the process. You can’t just go back out and do what you were doing before. There is going to be recovery time. I couldn’t just go back out on the golf course. I had to let the medical professionals take over and advise me on what to do after the procedure. With HIFU, there will be a catheter and some incontinence. It’s temporary but you still have to pay attention. Let the medical professionals tell you how you should proceed and don’t fight it.

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  • Will Jones moderator
    9 months ago

    I agree with every major point made in this article, especially getting educated and playing with the hand you’re dealt. There are few men who I know past 65 who aren’t dealing with some kind of health challenge. We take action, we support one another, we talk openly and honestly about what’s going on. It’s good having company on this journey. Isolation is a killer. Will Jones Moderator

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