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What are your approaches to sex and intimacy after treatment?

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  1. I have a couple of issues to discuss but I see no "traffic" here! Are there no postings on the topic of sex after treatment?

    1. There is a lot of information and experience out there. I suffered from ED following my prostatectomy 12 years ago. WE managed to re-establish our sex life successfully using vacuum pumps and constricting rings - this works for us but there are many other options, one of them is bound to suit you. Have a look at the following link which shows how with determination, imagination, love and desire to please each other it is perfectly possible to re-establish your sex life, often with unintended benefits.
      https://community.prostatecanceruk.org/posts/t28948-Re-establishing-Sex-Life

    2. sorry to hear that freddie. I am not sure why you where given a vasectomy? The doctor must of felt it would be helpful, you are the first person I heard mention an vasectomy, I would go back and question the reason it was done. Wishing you the best.

  2. I have had ED worsen as a result of radiation tx, but I respond well to C-ring and ED meds, which really make a big difference! C-rings are too often overlooked, and too often used improperly.

    My main frustration has been inability to reach orgasm ever since bicalutimide and Lupron tx even though I have refused these meds now for several years due to some dangerous side effects (And I have done well without them!). I'm looking for info from others who may have had similar experience, and maybe some helpful suggestions.

    1. Thank you for the info and I will look into this after i complete my 3 round of treatment for PCa ( I have already undergone Surgery, and 5 years later LUPRON/Radiation) .


      Currently PCa has been detected in my hip bone at very early stage due to PSMA Pet Scan. So rather than the knee jerk reaction of being put on Lupron as suggested by urologist - I discovered I am now a candidate for a new type of targeted radiation that has a chance of killing the PCa off before it takes hold. I will be writing an article on the treatment protocol in the weeks ahead. This technology has just recently been installed at a major cancer center in my area - will keep everyone posted. Dennis (ProstateCancer.net TEAM)

    2. I had robotic surgery in June of 2020. I had incontinence issues and decided to have the male urinary sling procedure last December. Thankfully, that has worked well for me. No more pads or diapers! The surgery has, however, seemed to have made my ED worse. Not sure why that would be, except anytime you're have surgery done in that area, it probably isn't helpful. I'm 68 years old and considering the implant. I figure I might as well make the best of the time I have left, and they say they can last up to 20 years. It sounds like it has worked well for you. Anything more you can add that would help with my decision making?

  3. Nine months after surgery, I am still experiencing erectile dysfunction. My wife and I have adjusted to my condition by adding more loving touch and stimulation to our intimate moments. And we create an intimate environment to accent our intimacy. We both try to be present, not thinking about what we're not able to do, but what we are doing. Mutual orgasm is still part of our experience because I learned that an erection is not necessary for a man to have an orgasm. Yes, our intimacy is different, but it is also satisfying.

    1. I was in the same boat and agree with your experience to learn different intimacy practices. I'm 68 and still married for 38 years!

  4. Good that you can "get there"! We have tried all sorts of sensual touching and long foreplay, sometimes off and on playfully for a couple of days before we get serious, but still even though my erection is pretty reliable, my result is not. I feel excitement and feel very into it, but just can't get to that stage of inevitability. She often has a good time and that is great as far as that goes, but my eventual frustration effects both of us. We're still hoping for an answer.


    1. I have not heard others expressing this problem. The general expectation is that even men with atrophied erectile tissue can experience orgasm as the mechanisms for erection and orgasm are entirely separate.

      A quick search of the internet indicates that there are physical or emotional reasons for lack of orgasm. You may want to see a medical provider or psychologist and ask about anorgasmia or Coughlan's syndrome.

      All the best.

      Guy B. Meredith, moderator.

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