: I hear your concerns. There are about 20 of us who attend a post-op hospital-related support group. While nothing is ever 100%, most say it helps when they remember to be flexible and relaxed about performance while at the same time focusing more attention on ways to please their partner. After a lot of frustration, I took that advice to heart. And while "things" are not like they were before, my partner and I enjoy our intimate times together. I am sure you will find what works best for both of you. Dennis (Prostate-Cancer.net TEAM)