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Identifying Emotional Roadblocks

As I have looked deeply into the emotional strains of having a father with living with prostate cancer, I look at how a chronic illness can take an emotional toll on our bodies. Most men I have met in my life hide their emotions most of the time. No matter what’s going on in their lives, they always say they are OK.

The worries they carry

I know they have to be overwhelmed by their diagnosis; good or bad. They may be in denial and fail to receive treatment. This is why it’s good to have a good support system. You don’t want to wait to get treated; this only allows the cancer to progress to another stage. I believe the longer a man waits to get treatment, the more challenges to his wellness he’ll face. Get treated right away.

You also have those who emotionally don’t want to share with their significant other because they feel they may be a burden. You have men that are the breadwinners and taking time to accept this diagnosis. This diagnosis is a mind blower for them. They ask themselves who will pay the bills? How will my family eat? These are all these emotional issues most men may have to face.

Replacing control with the unknown

I talked to a prostate patient recently and he told me that this cancer is more emotionally heavy on men than women. He said that men are supposed to be the stronger sex and they look at prostate cancer as a weakness that they have no control over.

Men can be stressed because, depending on what stage they are at, they worry about losing their sexual ability to perform as a partner and losing their partner. They may feel their loved one will leave them. So once again their emotions are all over the place.

Finding emotional relief

Here are some suggestions for emotional relief:

  • Be honest about your fears to family and friends
  • Join a support group, talking to others who have experienced what you’re going through
  • Understand your health treatment
  • Get a second opinion
  • Make choices that help your health
  • Follow the doctors’ orders to the “T”
  • Don’t isolate yourself, share your story
  • Mediation and quiet time, just to reflect on what is going on

Men all are different and deal with their illness differently. A positive attitude has so much to do with your recovery. Having a negative attitude can sometimes be a hindrance in the healing process.

Fear of chemo and radiation is understandable. So many times we base our fear from what someone told us. Once again, it may not affect you that way at all. My father had prostate cancer at 75 and he tolerated his radiation treatment very well. I was more stressed than he was. His positive attitude and keeping his mind occupied kept him going every day. Most fear is just a false illusion which has no support. Let us lessen our emotions and face these deterrents so we can have a promising journey.

Embrace health and healing

Early detection is crucial. We need to get our regular check-ups. It seems that this disease is not for the old anymore; young men are getting it too. Some men fear they waited too long and treatment will not work…never think that way. We must walk in boldness even with a cancer diagnosis and expect the best. Gather around those who will be loving, caring and will listen. You will need all these things in place to go through this stage in your life to get healthy.

Expect the best outcome and embrace the healing. Love yourself and just know that our emotional well-being is definitely connected with our healing process. Embrace healing in every breath you take and exhale all fear, stress, and anxiety for a non-stress body.

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Comments

  • kenneth1955
    1 month ago

    This is very good information to make your decision on what to do. And this is true you have to take charge of your body and treatment. Right now I do not have prostate cancer. Been deal with a lot of infection seen more then enough antibiotic. But I have made up my mind that if I do get cancer there is no doctor that is going to tell me I need to have my prostate removed to have a better life. It will stay there till I die. Been looking for the last year in a half in prostate cancer and its treatments. I will not give up anything to cancer. I will enjoy my sex life till the end all of it. My ejaculation is mine and it goes with my orgasm. If I can fine a treatment that they will remove the Tumor only nothing else and they give me 100% guarantee no side effect that we will be a go If they can’t then no way. I have a friend that I had to talk down because after he was talked into having his prostate removed at 48 He was so depressed that all he wanted to do is kill him self. I have held him as he cried his eye out. The only way he was able to get a erection was with a shot in his penis. He did it a couple of times and it was not the same. He told me the the orgasm was not worth the time. Right now he is 52 and alive but he does not have sex with his wife and the only thing he things about now is his 2 young kids. Doctor tell you not to worry all will be the same. Well they lie a lot. Well this is enough it get me upset to much. All I have to say is we are the ones that have to deal with whatever we decide to have done the doctors do not they just move on to the next patient. God help us all

  • Eduardo1
    1 month ago

    Follow your doctor’s order to a “T”? Was a serious piece of advice? What about relentless questioning your doctor’s advice?

  • ninaw moderator
    1 month ago

    Hi @eduardo1, you make a good point about the importance of being in charge of your own health. Our advocates have a range of approaches to this – some tend to follow a trusted doctor’s advice strictly, while others take a more skeptical approach. I believe a lot of it comes down to the individual and their doctor, and as Diane says, getting second opinions. – Nina, ProstateCancer.net Team

  • JohnTeisberg
    2 months ago

    Diane, thanks for your thoughts. I just got off our support call and we were talking about many of the things you mentioned for emotional relief. Talking with other men about these ‘unmeasurable’ things makes the conversations very rich.
    One man talked about how difficult it is to be a burden to his wife now that he is not the main bread winner anymore. He is not even 50 yet. Very difficult burdens for men to carry alone.
    Thanks again.

  • Diane Talbert moderator author
    2 months ago

    Thanks John. It is so hard for men to open up, especially when they are used to being in control. Having a good support system helps so much.

    Sincerely,

    Diane

  • BIGt
    4 months ago

    Thank you for the heads up

  • Diane Talbert moderator author
    2 months ago

    Thanks BIGt,

    I hope you are doing well. Keep in touch.

    Diane T

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