Reclaiming Masculinity and Intimacy After Prostate Cancer
I have been around men my whole life. Of course, I have a father, husband, two grown sons and 10 uncles. I have kept my ears to the ground on a lot of conversations between men. If they only knew the stories I have heard over the years.
Prostate cancer affects masculinity in so many ways. I believe that is why nobody likes to talk about it. We need men to share their experiences with this disease. This is very important for new patients, especially before and after cancer treatment.
Why erectile dysfunction after prostate cancer is still a taboo topic
Our society likes to be entertained and relaxed. Talking about sex is no problem, but what if that area no longer works? Well, now here comes the silence. This topic is taboo because prostate cancer and its consequences can affect sex life or bring it to a complete standstill. This shows how uptight we as people are.
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Have you experienced side effects from prostate cancer treatment?
If a man has prostate cancer, he is going to feel affected by this disease. He thinks he is defined by his potency and testosterone. Most men probably feel an attack on their ego and do not want to talk openly about sexual needs with their partner, urologist, or anyone else.
Talking about masculinity and prostate cancer
I remember talking to a young man who brought up this subject with his colleagues. It was already awkward talking about masculine topics in front of them, and he was explaining things when someone said, "Don’t they have those vacuum pumps and medications you can use?" He immediately felt stressed and never brought the subject up with them again.
Had he simply agreed to the first treatment proposed, he would have undergone an invasive surgery. In plain language, it would have meant removing the prostate and accepting that the nerve bundles that are jointly responsible for the erection are also destroyed.
He would never have agreed to this. Yes, he had a tumor. But it was not so aggressive that it could be an immediate danger to his life. He decided to go in for a second opinion.
Navigating recovery and rehabilitation after prostate surgery
Today, his prostate cancer is undetectable, but he still must be checked regularly. Everyone's recovery is different, and it sometimes takes time to regain a sense of normalcy. Even the minimally invasive operation is not a small thing. During the procedure, his abdominal cavity was filled with carbon dioxide. This caused severe pain as the trapped gas was slowly absorbed by his body. Because both lymph nodes had to be removed, and he often has swollen ankles. He has to have lymphatic drainage.
Nobody gets better on their own
Open information is important for prostate cancer patients. Early detection saves lives, and there is still a lot of room for improvement. You owe it to yourself as a mature patient. After the diagnosis, look up facts about the treatment options, advantages and disadvantages, side effects, consequences, and solutions. Talk to your doctor. Sometimes you must be your own best advocate.
The road to recovery is different for everyone and may require discipline. You may not be satisfied with all of the outcomes, but try to remember that support and understanding from your loved ones is one of the most important parts of the whole healing process.
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