My Sex Desire Is Gone
We live in a world where sex seems to be everywhere. I’m a baby boomer and in the last 20 or so years, I have seen more sex on TV than I have seen in my whole life. I don’t have a problem with sex, but I feel that men think need to live up to what society thinks they should.
I can’t look at a show on TV with my grandkids or my elderly parents anymore without some sort of sex scene coming on. I don’t allow the kids on the internet in my presence because I have to monitor every site that they go on.
Focus on yourself
This got me to thinking one day about men, prostate cancer, and sex. There can be times when sex is nonexistent in the bedroom. When you are told you have prostate cancer, it takes a blow to your being and your sex drive is probably out the window. Your main goal is just to concentrate on your diagnosis. You need to learn all you can about your disease and treatment plans.
Now it’s time to get your emotions in check; you may be sad and depressed at times and not know where to turn. It might be that way for a while, so don’t expect to be superman in the bedroom. It’s all about you right now.
It takes time to heal
As time goes by you may begin to feel better and things may start to get back on the right track. You start communicating more with your partner and realize that you have plenty to live for. You might realize that before you got sick you had a great relationship and how much this person was a part of you. Your significant other wants to share their life with you as much as you with them. Women understand that you might be different now, but they do understand.
Feeling robbed of our life
I was talking to a gentleman the other day who had prostate cancer. He had been married for 15 years. He told me that he loved his wife as much as he did at day one. His sexual desire has diminished, but his love for her would never die. He said with the medication, pain, and fatigue; it just takes away his desire for sex. He told me that at times he feels like he had been robbed of his life. He is 45 years old.
A marriage is not just sex; you have to build a relationship as we all know. You are still the same person with prostate cancer, you might have to work a little harder on the sex part. Talk with your partner openly and honestly about how you feel. Don’t assume you know how someone is feeling; communicate with them.
Everyone is different
Of course, everyone is different and will not experience the same thing. There are people who will have an upbeat attitude about their diagnosis and not let the sex thing affect them at all. There are others whose sex life changes a lot. I’m sure some of this has to do with your age, attitude, and lifestyle.
As we know cancer treatment can change how we look. You might get bigger or smaller in weight, lose hair, etc. You may feel awkward about how your partner sees you now.
Remember...you are not alone
Just remember men that you are not alone in this journey. Spread the word that early detection is the key. Get tested today.
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