Three Questions For A Big Impact

By Dennis E. Golden

1 min read

When dealing with the daily reality of living with prostate cancer, I occasionally can find myself becoming a bit overwhelmed thinking about where I am today and what the future holds.

Reflecting and staying grounded

As an experiment, I decided to try a simple exercise to help me center my life each week. So far it is working and only involves asking 3 questions. Check them out if you like.

How do you answer these three questions?

We want to hear your answers to Dennis's three questions for a bigger impact. Tell us in the comments:

What did you learn this week that you didn't know before?
What could you have done better this week?
What would you have changed about this week?

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kenneth1955 Member
Dennis I watched your video a few times but I do not understand why you are saying that you are still dealing with prostate cancer. The after math yes If you had your prostate removed they you don't have cancer anymore. Was that not the reason you had the surgery. If not then you should have not had it done. First of all I do not have prostate cancer. I do a lot of research about BPH and Prostate cancer. To many of the fixes takes to much away from a mans life. I had a Urolift done over 5 years ago. I refused to have anything done that will damage or take anything away from me. To many procedure have side effects of erection problem or you end up with retro. At 64 I'm not going to live my life like that. I live by life like I have always have. If I can do something for someone I'm there for them. I see my family as much as I can ( With the virus we talk a lot on the phone ) If you need something and I have it I will give it to you. I have been there being told I have prostate cancer. It happen when I was 47. My PSA was over 400. My GP doctor already had me sit up with a surgeon. I went and saw a Urologist and told him I was not having anything done until I have more test Which I did. You name it I had it. Even had a 12 needle biopsy. Turned out that I had a very bad prostate infection and a defected kidney. It is half normal size and it is siting on my bladder. At 64 I love by life and I will do anything to keep it that way. I will not have anything removed if I do get prostate cancer. With not deal with the side effects If this is the way I'm going out I'm going to live it to the fullest. It is my life and my choice.
1. amylynv Community Admin
 Hi, @kenneth1955. You’re exactly right; everyone has a choice in their healthcare and how they deal with the various health care conditions throughout their life. We are glad to hear you have taken control of your life and have made decisions that are best for you. It sounds like you have a strong sense of being a caretaker for those around you, through your various actions of being there for your friends and family. Thank you for sharing your experience and being there for others. Many men who have had their prostate removed are still affected by prostate cancer in one form or another, and that’s what this community is all about - a place for people to connect and share, whether they have been affected by prostate cancer, have a loved one affected by prostate cancer, or are seeking information and resources. With that said, it is common for men to continue to refer to having prostate cancer even after treatment. We try to be sensitive to everyone’s unique experiences with their prostate cancer and acknowledge the ways in which they identify as a survivor in our community. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. Take care. -Amylyn (<a href='https://prostatecancer.net' target='_blank'>ProstateCancer.net</a>, Community Manager)
2. kenneth1955 Member
 Thank you for getting back to me. I know I'm way different from other men. I view things in a long term and most men do not what that change in there life. I worked for many years back in the 80's in a nursing home took care of many people. This helped me in the year that came after. I took care of my parents and my in-laws when they were ill. Strokes and Cancer We all should do what we have to do. For me at 64 being divorced I take control of my life I decide how I want to live it out. My doctors only do what I agree to no extra. Even when I had a few surgery's. You only have my permission to do what we talk about nothing more. One time when I went into retention and I was bleeding they did not know why. I had to have emergency surgery. It was not my Urologist. I would not let him do surgery until he sign a paper that my prostate was not to be cut or removed for any reason. It took him 30 minutes to sign the paper and it was witness by 2 nurses. I told him I would no let him touch me unless he sign I will lay here and bleed to death. I had 4 blood clogs on my prostate which he burned. Never had a problem after that. I do not give any doctor full control It is my body We all should live the way we what and not with the side effect that come with these other surgery.