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Newly diagnosed 53 year old very scared

Hi I am a 53 year old diagnosed 2 days ago. Psa 8.4 gleason 7 4+3. Waiting on bone scan and mri. Having Night terrors and feeling like cancer has spread everywhere. People around me very positive but I fear the worse and my life is basically over. I want to be strong but idk what to do. Anyone feeling this way?

  1. Hi I can understand why you are scared, many of our members will say getting a diagnosis can be very overwhelming. It is a lot to take in and having to wait for the next scan, must be emotionally and physically draining. I am sending you over an article from one of our advocates with some tips that I hope can help you: https://prostatecancer.net/living/newly-diagnosed-tips. Please keep us posted on your upcoming scans. Sending lots of strength to you. Jill, prostatecancer.net team

    1. Thank you. Your reply is greatly appreciated

      1. Hearing the cancer diagnosis is terrifying. We've hear that same diagnosis in our family sadly three times. We've also learned that there are several resources that can help with some of the fears, inability to sleep and concentrate. The surgeon's office and the oncologist's office all offered a variety of options for counseling, medication, group therapy, and explanations of the disease and treatment that helped put our minds at ease. It might be helpful if you talk to your doctor about your feelings and see what he/she recommends. If your doctor isn't able to help you, keep searching - help is out there. Best wishes to you as you begin the process toward healing.

        1. Thank you Sue. I have been getting mentally stronger. I have a very strong support from my family and friends. I been doing alot of research and I know I have to wait for all my tests but I feel I have a good shot of beating this and I am going to keep my head up. The crazy part is I feel great physically. If I didn't know ...it would be life as usual.

          1. I am so glad to hear you have such a strong support team, that is so important. And it is great that you are doing the research and being an advocate for yourself. That is the crazy thing about cancer, sometimes you just don't know, until you know. Please try to keep the positive mindset. Jill, prostatecancer.net team

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