So how do you decide which takes precedence…..your own quality of life or the quality of life of your caretaker and family? I’m not dying ( yet) but I do know every decision I make from here on out has future implications. I have stage IV p c with bone mets. Just went to my regular oncologist appt and , after a 6 month recess, the psa and testosterone are inching up. Dr wanted to start Lupron and Xtandi right away. It worked before and probably will work again, but the side effects are just draining. I told the Dr. no , not until I know if and where cancer is located. I have about 4 weeks before the scans to answer that question.
The treatments have long term eventual effects on the heart, diabetes, and of course weight gain, hot flashes, and fatigue.
After four years of unbelievable support ( and no sex) how can I ask my wife to take care of me and put her life on hold indefinitely ? Retirement was to be for traveling, new adventures, time with friends & family, etc. not unending Dr appts, labs, scans, shots, ……
Anyway, as you guys know, some days are all sunshine and some cloudy….today is a cloudy one for me with time to think.
This forum is really a great place to share among men. Thanks