As Chris mentions, wives participate in cancer support groups at local cancer centers. Get in touch with your local group. Wives are so, so, so very important in this journey.
As a cancer patient I would also suggest working with a mental health professional. Emotions, self image and many other factors play a big part right now. Like many other men, I work with a psychologist to help deal with the emotions and tension of living with cancer.
Guy B. Meredith, moderator.