Sneakers100,
Hello I was 63; in working with a local urologist at a smaller community hospital the following was determined: PSA had crept up to 5.6, worst case biopsy sample was 5+4 = 9.
At this point I can appreciate what you are doing in seeking 2nd opinions - good for you! I live in the Chicago area, and switched gears to one of the national Cancer Institutes, Northwestern University Medicine for 2 - 2nd opinions. Of course surgeon preferred surgery. However; the radiation oncologist was very good, explained that they have different flavors of radiation including Proton. However after looking at my records and hearing my story he said: "Off the record you are healthy enough, therefore you should strongly consider surgery" (He may be the most honest medical expert I will ever talk to!).
When I asked him why, 2 things resonated with me:
1) He suggested if you have radiation first and if you were to have a recurrence, surgery is no longer a practical follow-up. I have since learned (true or not?), that apparently it is very difficult to operate thru tissue that had been previously irradiated. His comment was why take 2 cards off the table by doing radiation first if you are healthy enough for surgery first?
2) He also said that radiation goes hand-in-hand with ADT/Hormone Therapy, and for some men it can be very hard to tolerate.
Yes I did get surgery and am not looking back. Just sharing what went into my decision to have surgery, everyone is different, being your own advocate by researching and getting 2nd opinions is key. Wishing you the best with whatever you choose!