What are your approaches to sex and intimacy after treatment?
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I have a couple of issues to discuss but I see no "traffic" here! Are there no postings on the topic of sex after treatment?
Hey,
After my boyfriend's treatment, we had to navigate some changes in our sex and intimacy. Communication was key; we talked openly about our needs and fears. We took things slowly, focusing on closeness and affection before worrying about intercourse. Using Cialis 20 mg helped a lot with his ED, but we also explored other ways to be intimate, like cuddling, kissing, and giving each other massages. It's important to be patient and understanding with each other.
Feel free to share your experiences or ask any questions!
thanks again for sharing what helped your boyfriend. I had to delete the link you attached, but your message is still here. Jill (Team Member)
I have had ED worsen as a result of radiation tx, but I respond well to C-ring and ED meds, which really make a big difference! C-rings are too often overlooked, and too often used improperly.
My main frustration has been inability to reach orgasm ever since bicalutimide and Lupron tx even though I have refused these meds now for several years due to some dangerous side effects (And I have done well without them!). I'm looking for info from others who may have had similar experience, and maybe some helpful suggestions.
I had robotic surgery in June of 2020. I had incontinence issues and decided to have the male urinary sling procedure last December. Thankfully, that has worked well for me. No more pads or diapers! The surgery has, however, seemed to have made my ED worse. Not sure why that would be, except anytime you're have surgery done in that area, it probably isn't helpful. I'm 68 years old and considering the implant. I figure I might as well make the best of the time I have left, and they say they can last up to 20 years. It sounds like it has worked well for you. Anything more you can add that would help with my decision making? : I found Lupron treatment to be as much a curse as a cure. Side effects other t Jan profuse and prolonged sweating persist 3 years after injections stopped. My loving and understanding wife are all that sustain any remaining sex life.
Nine months after surgery, I am still experiencing erectile dysfunction. My wife and I have adjusted to my condition by adding more loving touch and stimulation to our intimate moments. And we create an intimate environment to accent our intimacy. We both try to be present, not thinking about what we're not able to do, but what we are doing. Mutual orgasm is still part of our experience because I learned that an erection is not necessary for a man to have an orgasm. Yes, our intimacy is different, but it is also satisfying.
I was in the same boat and agree with your experience to learn different intimacy practices. I'm 68 and still married for 38 years!
Good that you can "get there"! We have tried all sorts of sensual touching and long foreplay, sometimes off and on playfully for a couple of days before we get serious, but still even though my erection is pretty reliable, my result is not. I feel excitement and feel very into it, but just can't get to that stage of inevitability. She often has a good time and that is great as far as that goes, but my eventual frustration effects both of us. We're still hoping for an answer.
I have not heard others expressing this problem. The general expectation is that even men with atrophied erectile tissue can experience orgasm as the mechanisms for erection and orgasm are entirely separate.A quick search of the internet indicates that there are physical or emotional reasons for lack of orgasm. You may want to see a medical provider or psychologist and ask about anorgasmia or Coughlan's syndrome.
All the best.
Guy B. Meredith, moderator.
I too have the same problem. 48 radiation treatments after my radical protostectomy in Oct 2023 left me with no chance of getting an erection. I opted for the AMS 700 pump which work kind of well. My erections aren't as hard even though they're getting better. And my penis is shorter than it was which is only my problem. My gf seems to be enjoying sex much more than she uses too. I cannot achieve orgasm. I start feeling like it could happen several times while we're having sex but haven't made it to the finish line. It might be psychological because I'm afraid of what will happen. It's nice to know I'm not alone.
