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What are your approaches to sex and intimacy after treatment?

A place to talk about personal experiences with sex and intimacy. Remember - you're welcome to discuss products, but no sales or soliciting!

  1. I have a couple of issues to discuss but I see no "traffic" here! Are there no postings on the topic of sex after treatment?

    1. There is a LOT of activity on Facebook. Search for the ‘Sex, Love & Prostate Cancer’ group. Also check out the ‘Prostate Cancer Support Network: ZERO Connect’ group. Tons of information from guys who are going through this with us.

    2. Thanks! I'll take a look.

  2. I have had ED worsen as a result of radiation tx, but I respond well to C-ring and ED meds, which really make a big difference! C-rings are too often overlooked, and too often used improperly.

    My main frustration has been inability to reach orgasm ever since bicalutimide and Lupron tx even though I have refused these meds now for several years due to some dangerous side effects (And I have done well without them!). I'm looking for info from others who may have had similar experience, and maybe some helpful suggestions.

    1. my husband has had ED since his robotic prostatectomy in 2010. We tried everything including an injection in his penis before intimacy ( I am a nurse) he can have an orgasm which I am thankful for that. He always made sure I was satisfied now I make sure he is. Usually oral works.

    2. I have had a good response to the "C-ring" / "Penis ring" approach. For me it must be around the penis and behind the testicles. A good tight fit is important but not so tight that getting it off is a struggle. There are many sizes and styles. I have a whole collection. Experimentation is pretty much necessary, but they are not expensive. Erections last longer with the addition of Sildenifil (Viagra) for me, but the penis ring is essential. It traps the outflow of venous blood but allows the deeper arteries to admit blood. Worth a try!

  3. Nine months after surgery, I am still experiencing erectile dysfunction. My wife and I have adjusted to my condition by adding more loving touch and stimulation to our intimate moments. And we create an intimate environment to accent our intimacy. We both try to be present, not thinking about what we're not able to do, but what we are doing. Mutual orgasm is still part of our experience because I learned that an erection is not necessary for a man to have an orgasm. Yes, our intimacy is different, but it is also satisfying.

    1. Good that you can "get there"! We have tried all sorts of sensual touching and long foreplay, sometimes off and on playfully for a couple of days before we get serious, but still even though my erection is pretty reliable, my result is not. I feel excitement and feel very into it, but just can't get to that stage of inevitability. She often has a good time and that is great as far as that goes, but my eventual frustration effects both of us. We're still hoping for an answer.

      1. I have not heard others expressing this problem. The general expectation is that even men with atrophied erectile tissue can experience orgasm as the mechanisms for erection and orgasm are entirely separate.

        A quick search of the internet indicates that there are physical or emotional reasons for lack of orgasm. You may want to see a medical provider or psychologist and ask about anorgasmia or Coughlan's syndrome.

        All the best.

        Guy B. Meredith, moderator.

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