What are your approaches to sex and intimacy after treatment?
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I have a couple of issues to discuss but I see no "traffic" here! Are there no postings on the topic of sex after treatment?
thanks again for sharing what helped your boyfriend. I had to delete the link you attached, but your message is still here. Jill (Team Member) I had radiation (35 treatments), bracytherapy, and hormone treatment 26 years ago. I also dealt with incontinence and eventually had a suprapubic catheter inserted after micro-surgery (to rebuild my urethra with a piece of my cheek) was ruled out. During this I was coming out to my wife as a crossdresser and considering a transition. She was going through menopause and her sexual energy was diminishing. I now find that can get aroused while dressed as a woman, of which my wife is accepting. My erections are not fully strong and the length of my penis is reduced. ED pills do not help in that regard. My orgasms are quite strong and intense, but no seminal fluid comes out. My plans for transition are on hold for several reasons, although I have experienced short periods of time living as a woman. My wife participates in kissing and mutual foreplay, but has female issues that preclude anything more that that. She is okay doing this with me in a female role. We are comfortable, but have not returned to being the robust sexual partners at the beginning of our 35 year marriage.
I have had ED worsen as a result of radiation tx, but I respond well to C-ring and ED meds, which really make a big difference! C-rings are too often overlooked, and too often used improperly.
My main frustration has been inability to reach orgasm ever since bicalutimide and Lupron tx even though I have refused these meds now for several years due to some dangerous side effects (And I have done well without them!). I'm looking for info from others who may have had similar experience, and maybe some helpful suggestions.
might have your doc pull estradoil and prolactin. Along with T and FT you can have an orgasm without an erection! But it’s time consuming. Masterbation is much quicker but if your partner does it she’ll have to have the patience of job to finish the job. Vacuum device works for me but it’s extremely cumbersome. I’ve tried everything else also. Had a radical prostatectomy 30 years ago so I’m thankful I’m still here. My urologist said forget viagra after a radical. Injections worked for awhile but then I needed a bigger dose which my urologist wouldn’t give me because of the danger of priapism (forgive the possible misspelling). He had operated on another patient who had given himself a double dose and because he couldn’t get rid of the erection the doctor had to surgically remove numerous blood clots from the poor guys penis and he told me the guy would never haves sex again!! So beware of that option
Nine months after surgery, I am still experiencing erectile dysfunction. My wife and I have adjusted to my condition by adding more loving touch and stimulation to our intimate moments. And we create an intimate environment to accent our intimacy. We both try to be present, not thinking about what we're not able to do, but what we are doing. Mutual orgasm is still part of our experience because I learned that an erection is not necessary for a man to have an orgasm. Yes, our intimacy is different, but it is also satisfying.
I was in the same boat and agree with your experience to learn different intimacy practices. I'm 68 and still married for 38 years!
Good that you can "get there"! We have tried all sorts of sensual touching and long foreplay, sometimes off and on playfully for a couple of days before we get serious, but still even though my erection is pretty reliable, my result is not. I feel excitement and feel very into it, but just can't get to that stage of inevitability. She often has a good time and that is great as far as that goes, but my eventual frustration effects both of us. We're still hoping for an answer.
were you ever afraid of having a urinary accident while being intimate? try masterbation!
