Gabester144,
May 8 2020 I underwent a prostatectomy for stage 2 prostate cancer. My PSA was 10.2 and Gleason score was 9. I was on Lupron shots and Abiraterone for 8 months before the surgery. I was like you I had never had surgery, so I had many of the same concerns. My surgery lasted 7 hours. Because of the Gleason score I was unable to have complete nerve sparing. They removed nerves and tissues from the right side of my prostate, spareing the left..
I woke from recovery my left arm was completely numb and I was unable to use it. I panicked thinking that I had a stroke. It was explained that it was because of the position I was kept in for 7 hours. Would have been good to know this was a possibility before I found out on my own. I spent two nights in the hospital post-op and was very well taken care of. When you discharge you will have a Foley catheter. I joked afterwards that Foley catheter is just a fancy name for a water hose. This was the worst part of recovery. I had it for ten days. They are going to give you a prescription for an anti spasm med for bladder spasms. Take them! I left the hospital without the prescription, on the four hour drive home I started having spasms and leaking around the catheter. Ended up in a small town ER having the catheter flushed and getting the meds. Make sure you are well trained and comfortable flushing the catheter. You will likely have to do it. After the catheter was removed I was sent home with a bag of depends. The first few days was wet and every day got better. I now have no incontinence issues. Do yourself a favor and find a physical therapist who specializes in bladder control. The lady I went to was awesome. It took two visits to get my bladder issues under control. My recovery has gone very well. I am back doing almost everything I want after five months. I can spend all day on a motorcycle seat with no issues. The one thing that has not gone as well is the ED. I am still working on this. Because of the hormone treatment I haven't started making testosterone so I have very little to no sex drive. I have been told the side effects from the medication could last a year.
You are doing the right thing by joining this group. I have received so much support from the group.